Talking About Sex To Preteens
Sooner or later, once your child reaches adolescence he or she would start asking you about their body and their sexuality. You don't just tell your kid that he or she came from the stork, they are not that easy to fool. The best way to approach this situation is to be honest, but how? Here are our helpful tips.
Inform your teen about the basics – It is best that you tell your child where babies come from, and they are most likely have heard it from their peers as well. Ask them what they know about sex and tell them the truth about it, as they are notorious to have misinformation on that subject. One common sex myth that your child most likely knows is that you can create babies out of kissing.
Talk about their changing bodies – Whether you have a boy or a girl, your teen is concerned with the way their bodies are starting to change. Their most common concern is that if it is normal. Assure them that what they are going through is just part of growing up.
Discuss the consequences of sexual behavior – Have a conversation with your teen about the consequences of having sex (even with protection) such as pregnancy and the vulnerability to certain diseases. Tell your daughter that pregnancy is a good thing, provided that she is all grown-up, married, and willing to take the responsibility of raising a child.
Provide your pre-teen with every possible perspective – Give information about sex and sexuality to your teen from both a woman's and a man's point-of-view. Mothers can shed some light on what girls are all about to their sons and fathers can provide information about boys to their daughters. It's okay that you feel uncomfortable at first, because your child is most likely nervous as well. Try infusing humor into the discussion to ease out the tension.
Be accessible to your pre-teen – Encourage them to talk to you often about any question they may have about sex (or any other topic for that matter). Children regard their parents as someone who provides valuable information, especially when they need to decide upon some issues. Remember to impart to your child that you are not in any way condoning their sexual behavior. This would clear any confusion your pre-teen may have and calm some of your concerns as well.
